Drewbacca, to explain why I quoted Kerr (but not in any way to pick an argument), may I highlight some portions of your response, and then try to bring it back to bike advocacy?
At face value, it just looks like the newspaper used male pronouns in reference to this person’s gender which would make sense if that was his(?) biological gender(?) at the time of death… regardless of personal preference. At face value, it looks like the widget community is over-reacting on the issue; but, it’s hard to say given that I am not familiar with the case, the published articles, the back-and-forth with the newspaper, etc.
I'm not in any way qualified to pick up Sue Kerr's banner and make the LGBTQIA position clear, but I'd like to suggest they hold for (1) individual autonomy (2) the notion that individuals get to self-identify, not society-imposed identification, (3) misidentification in death is the last final disrespect, (4) people who think this is an over-reaction just don't get it, (5) education and discussion are the keys to change. Further, in this case the paper's unfamiliarity with accepted contemporary standards is unprofessional.
DrewBacca's comment about Kerr is similar to what so many people said to me, when I disliked the media coverage about the 8-year old run over by the car and the media's sympathetic coverage of the driver. People said things like, "it's only an accident", "the driver didn't do anything wrong", "you talk like she did a bad thing", "hey there's two victims here", etc.
When I object they said things like, "
the bike community is way over-reacting and too self-focused", "it's not all about you guys", "
it just makes sense that you're gonna get hit if you're in the road with the cars", "sometimes these things happen, get over it".
Because to the majority, to the people making those comments on the P-G, bicyclists are a small minority making unreasonable demands, and the status quo just makes sense. Roads are for cars. Expect to get hit. Cars shouldn't have to slow down. Cars are serious. Bikes are toys. Drivers have jobs.
Our closet is the bike trail, and we should stay in the closet.
So, how did the civil rights movement change the media coverage of racial issues? How is the gay-gender rights movement changing their treatment by the media? (see Sue Kerr, among others)
How are we going to get past, "
A bicyclist who was not wearing a helmet died this afternoon after an accident on a busy street, which was not marked with joint-use sharrows. There was no bike lane. The driver of the car, who initially did not realize she had run over a bike, called police after another parent at the aftercare pointed out bits of skull and hair on her SUV's front bumper. Her family has asked for prayer and support in this most difficult time."
Say it loud: I'm a bicyclist and I'm proud. (no offense to anybody, but I mean to suggest the change paradigm)
Cheers on a sunny day in paradise,
V.